do you guys think i was way out of order.
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September 4th, 2010
my gran passed away on sunday. i was extremely close to her as she and my mum brought me up anyway.
i went to her house on tuesday and the place had been turned upside down by my aunties, all my grans worldly possessions in black bags 
anyway i walked in and the first thing i hear is ******* (names shall not be mentioned lol) can have the furniture. so that p+++ed me off to begin with. my mum asked if she could have the tv as we are getting house ready to sell and that all. one of my aunties replied no that should go to ******* . right so i spotted some DIY stuff in my grannys kitchen( just some screwdrivers n shit) i asked if i could have them (as my gran was going to give me them before she passed i just never collected them) i was told by an aunt no i claimed them yesterday. it made me furious.
not only did it mean that they were in claiming what stuff they wanted of my grans 1 day after she passed. i felt like i couldnt grieve, i wanted to gon into her house n try n get it into my head that i would never see my gran in her chair again, but the house was destroyed.
sooo i had a bit of a rant on facebook calling them dirty greedy b+++tards and hope my granny gets her revenge (meaning chop their fingers off for toughing her stuff.she hated them touching her stuff)
i know i should have put it on facebook but i was blind with rage
was a total out of order or do you guys see where im coming from.
maybe i should have read this first lol lots of spelling mistakes oops
thanks Guys,
the problem is yeah they did kinda see oops lol. it has been deleted since still doesnt make me feel any less angry with them though. i grovelled with apology for my mum and grans sake doesnt mean that i meant it lol. just think they are moving on way too fast, she hasnt even had a funeral yet and they have practically cleared her house.
oh and what makes me madder is one of my aunts isnt even going to the funeral, they are going on holiday instead.mega raging lol
Antoinette says:
Rash, yes. Out of order. No. And you’re entitled to be angry/rash when you’re gran has just died. You need to be able to grieve and adjust, and get your head round things, before practical matters come into importance. Your family should have had more consideration for these things - well, they should have felt that way themselves, surely.
Sorry for your loss. I hope things get better for you x
September 4th, 2010 at 5:32 pm
Gretz says:
1st off, im sorry for your loss.
I would of done that same, maybe worse :/
September 4th, 2010 at 6:16 pm
Rachael says:
every body deals with grief in their own way, im sure that if you explain why you said those things and that you felt hurt at what was happening your family will understand, maybe your mum and aunts just wanted to keep some things for themselves as a reminder of your gran, i think its important that you talk about how you feel as your family may be trying to deal with their grief in a certain way. you should remember that your gran would surely not want you all to fight over possessions and remember all the good times you spent together.
September 4th, 2010 at 6:59 pm
jackie m says:
I do see where you are coming from but it wont help in any way and I hope the people you insulated never get to read what you put. The way they acted about clearing out the house is the way most people react at that time but from what you say you will have the best memory of all of them as you will remember your gran with love in your heart but they will soon forget about her.
September 4th, 2010 at 7:31 pm
Donot K says:
Firstly l am very sorry for the loss of your gran. I lost my mum in November age 60 so l understand where you are coming from.
We all do things out of temper so doing what you did on facebook probably made you feel better at the time. However perhaps now you have got your anger out, that you should now delete it. Just out of respect for your gran.
Did your gran have a Will. If she did then noone is entitled to take anything until the Will is read. Otherwise if there is no Will then l am afraid nothing can be done what your aunties have done. Although saying that l am shocked at how quick they have jumped in to take your grans things. It is 9 months from when my mum died and none of her stuff have been touched yet. I just cannot bear to go into her house. Sorry to say this but l think it is very disrespectful for people to even think about peoples belonging so quickly after they have died Just scroungers that are after themselves - Did they not have any love for your poor gran -Take care sweetheart
September 4th, 2010 at 8:08 pm
L says:
No, not really out of order, but a bit impulsive to lose it in this way.
You should try to find out whether your gran left a will, then your greedy aunts would not be able to grab everything. No-one has the right to ‘divvy’ up stuff in this way.
September 4th, 2010 at 8:57 pm
buggin says:
you weren’t out of order. I would have been just as pissed off.
does gran own her house. is the place on a deadline time/money wise.
if she has a will, an executor is usually named in it - notify them. If it is one of your aunts - tell her you want to see the will.
hire a lawyer to stop them. get the lawyer to have a judge appoint an executor.
be a bitch about the whole thing if you don’t care if you ever see those vultures again, otherwise, try to control yourself a bit.
September 4th, 2010 at 9:37 pm
Christopher D says:
thats just terrible that material possesions are what they are most concerned with right now. I see where your coming from. I had the same issue when my granfather died with all his things and who gets this, and who gets that, as well as issues with money he had left behind. I bothered me that no one seemed to care that he was actually gone. I would say you weren’t out of line, it’s just not right how they are thinking.
September 4th, 2010 at 10:12 pm
Pinolera says:
When a person dies they can’t take their posessions with them. We cleaned my dad’s room the day after he died and we gave away most of his stuff. No point in trying to hang on to things, they are just things. On the other hand, we all want something to remember our loved ones by, but the best thing one could posess that your greedy aunts didn’t have were good memories. Material things don’t last forever, but memories stay with us as long as we are alive. Cherish that and remember the good times you had with your grandma.
September 4th, 2010 at 10:55 pm