What to do about my girly boyfriend.
By
on
August 31st, 2010
My boyfriend is a great person. He’s a good listener and he’s very caring. He likes to cuddle and he likes to buy me gifts.
The problem is, he’s.well, girly.
He will not do anything labor intensive. I’ve had to clean the backyard, by myself, two years in a row because he saw a spider out there once and he’s afraid of spiders. In fact, he’s also afraid of wasps and bees and when one flew in the house he tried to run.
A lightbulb burned out in the kitchen a while back and recently he asked me why I don’t replace it. I was like “Uh, because I’m 5′5 and you’re 6′4 and the ceiling is 8 feet hight so it’s your job” and he still hasn’t done it.
His idea of helping around the house is going shopping and buying soap, toilet paper, and cleaning supplies.
When we moved in, with the exception of helping unload the truck, I had to move all of the furniture into each room and unpack everything myself.
I have to make all of the important decisions and figure out what to do in tough situations because he panics and screams at me to tell him what I want him to do, even when I was dealing with a dying family member, hadn’t slept for days, and was stressed beyond belief. He’s the same way at work, completely passive. He has worked in retail for 10 years and makes $10 an hour and has never been promoted because he has no leadership skills. Three of my friends made manager within a year and a half.
It’s like WTF. I feel like I’m dating a woman. If I wanted to be the man of the house I’d be a lesbian.
Everytime I try to talk to him about this his voice gets high and he tells me “Well tell me what you want me to do.”
Should I tell him bye.
Beachsun says:
um maybe.but just tell him to hear u out and explain to him y u need need to get out. lol i dont blame u, men are meant to be men and he might just be a mamas boy
August 31st, 2010 at 6:48 am
Chris B says:
Yes this ‘man’ has some serious issues. He won’t change dramatically. Say goodbye and tell him to get a job.
August 31st, 2010 at 7:48 am
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August 31st, 2010 at 8:35 am
governmentslave says:
Yes you should leave him,but first because he can’t survive on his own.GET HIM A “BOYFRIEND”
While your at it get a NEW boyfriend for you too.
August 31st, 2010 at 9:09 am
betly says:
Yes ,you should talk to him about how you are feeling now and give him a last chance to change,tell him you need a man able to take his own decisions,a support in your life not a pet a kid or a toy, and if he is not what your looking for don’t spend your time anymore,but if you believe he might change look for some help.Maybe he already found what he wanted,and he feels comfy being like that,be straight and honest to yourself.
August 31st, 2010 at 9:51 am
AJ says:
yes you shld. if you wanted to date someone girly you might as well be dating girls. what you need is a BOYfriend, which is the exact opposite of what you have now. i wld without a doubt dump him. hes obviously not going anywhere in life and hes just holding you back with all his crap. i think it wld only benefit you to leave him.
August 31st, 2010 at 10:47 am