I’m tired of the abuse from my husband.really need some christian input.

By on February 23rd, 2010

My husband and I recently got married and I feel I should divorce him but I just don’t know. He has a bad past with lying to me over small things and has hit me in the past. It’s a long story but here goes:

We are re-financing our house and for whatever reason, the company left me off the loan again so that left my husband taking care of the paperwork, phone calls, etc. and it’s usually me that takes care of situations since he claims “he has no people skills.” I noticed when he talked to our rep. he was talking to her as if she was his friend or something. In a kind of “melodic” soft tone. I don’t know. So I casually brought something up about it and he said he didn’t know what I was talking about. Anyways, fast forward he’s had to speak with her several times now and we got the news tonight they are not sending the quick claim to change my last name on the documents and I will just have to sign as my maiden name and deal with it later and through some sort of form we can find on a legal site. I just got so upset because it doesn’t make ANY sense and I felt like if he’d reminded her or something instead of making jokes with them on the phone it would be taken care of. So, at this point I was very frustrated and outright said he was too busy “flirting” with her, which I know is not entirely true, and he flipped out as usual screaming at the top of his lungs, and threw our remote. He went online to try to find this form and he had trouble remembering the year we bought the place so I leaned over him to type it and he shoved me into our kitchen table. Now this is not the first time he has shoved me and I told him last time nobody is going to lay their hands on me and I’m out next time it happens. I got up and shoved him back but he was sitting so all he did was lean forward a bit but he jumped up shoved me into our counters and over and over again so I couldn’t catch my balance, I tried fighting back and was screaming don’t touch me, and he eventually shoved me into another room and hit my ear hard. I couldn;t stop crying. He just walked away. I got up and screamed in his face to leave I’m done with this. He screams back it was my own fault, I started it. 10 minutes later he starts crying and saying all this crap about how could I accuse him of flirting, I am the love of his life,etc. He claims “he didn’t mean to hit my ear” and I told him to listen to what he’s saying,.”he didn’t mean to hit his wife’s ear as he was repeadingly shoving her.”

I just don’t know what to do he plays mind games with me all the time when he lies or something and flips it onto me. He also closes up when I try to talk something out and contradicts silly things I say like about the weather or something stupid in front of our families. I’m always wrong to him. I know I SHOULD leave I grew up in a very abusive household and all the flags are there. I feel so paralyzed since I JUST married him and I am Catholic. I briefly brought up anger management for him years ago but never pushed it because it never happened again til now and he never took it upon himself to do it as well. I don’t know if I should enforce it this time around and THEN leave if he doesn’t, or just give up and go.