Would you make them pay child support.
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February 26th, 2009
OK.She left him, (not because of another man), she makes more money, she provides insurance for the children (2 of them - 12 and 9). Now she pays rent, vehicle payment, utilities, etc. by herself.
He lives in a home free of charge that belongs to her mother, only pays utilities and a vehicle payment.
She only took a few furniture items out of the house along with her “personal belongings”. Left him with all of his tools, a business, 3 vehicles.
She had to buy furniture for 3 bedrooms, all new clothes for the kids, toys, kitchen stuff, etc. (you get the idea).
They agreed that she pay for the insurance for the children but they spilt the “non-covered” (20%) 50%/50%.
They agreed to shared parenting with both parents having equal amount of time with the children. Neither parent is designated the primary parent. They split everything 50/50.
Under the law, the parent that makes the most money is the parent that pays child support and that is the way that it should be to give the children the same living environment at both homes.
Would you, as a man, want to take child support from her.
letterstoheather says:
I’m not a man, but if both parents have equal time with the kids, then neither should be paying child support, UNLESS a custodial home was assigned by the court. In that case, the non-custodial parent pays support.
Whoever this woman is, needs to get a family law attorney so that she can become the custodial parent.
February 26th, 2009 at 11:03 am
R G says:
i would never take child support from her as raising a child is hard enough i would rather try and get along with the ex so that my kids are not caught in the middle and mentally screwed.
February 26th, 2009 at 11:53 am
pappyg says:
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
She cannot divorce Him for that, just leave.
Yes, but He needs to get a job.
February 26th, 2009 at 12:29 pm
Bring on Socialism!! says:
No not if the time is 50/50
February 26th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
mamamoon says:
The child support is not for the man it’s for the children and yes the children should get it.
February 26th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
cokie says:
He is a jerk if he does it sounds like she was more than fair in the divorce.She is shouldering the biggest part of the care for the children so the only reason he would do that is to help himself
February 26th, 2009 at 2:28 pm
oneiloilokano says:
No way. In fact I think the arrangement is very generous on behalf of the husband. The woman could easily get primary custody of the kids and the husband would have to pay support regardless of what she makes.
If the guy knows what’s good for him he will leave well enough alone.
If not it’s a no brainier to figure out what a judge would do and trust me he’s getting off the hook way easy compared to most divorced guys I know.
February 26th, 2009 at 3:02 pm
Jade M says:
That is not the law in my state. In fact in the situation that you just described, equal placement, there is usually no child support paid to either parent. The parents are to pay equal shares towards the children’s needs. Ask me how that works, when the ex is an irresponsible idiot. My ex-never followed the placement that was designated by the court in the first place. I never fought him on it because the kids were better off with me. And no, I am not well-to-do. I worked a full and part-time job for years to provide for my kids because I knew I would never be able to count on their father to be responsible.
I think that both parents need to have some financial accountability to their children regardless of their income.
February 26th, 2009 at 3:50 pm
dons_baby0704 says:
I’m not a man either, but I do have some input. My husband has 2 wonderful little girls. the oldest we have had custody of for years n her mother just comes n goes from her life as she pleases. B*tch, lol. The youngest is 3, and he n the mother have 50/50 custody. But, he still has to pay her almost $100 bucks a week because she is too lazy to get a real job (not cause she cant, cause she refuses.she even said this in court.) I find it highly unfair to my husband to have to pay for her to sit at home most of the time because she CHOOSES not to find a better way to support herself and her children. Not to mention.as I said, according to court papers, their custody is 50/50. In reality, we have her 98% of the time because the mother wants the money without having to actually use it to support the child, the way its meant to be used. So.if the father truly needs it to support his child/children, then yes, go for it. If it’s simply to be spiteful or just because he can, then no.
February 26th, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Leo says:
if you have joint custody then no one should pay support. just because one parent makes less money than another does not make them a better parent or make them more able to provide a good environment for the child(ren). if everything else is split 50/50 and both parents are able to provide a secure place for the child to come stay with them then that’s all that matters
February 26th, 2009 at 5:29 pm
shyanne says:
you’re wrong about the law. child support is not based on who makes more money. it is based on who has physical custody. the non-custodial parent pays child support based on WHATEVER earnings they make.
back to your example: if custody is shared, there should be no child support order. they both contribute to raising the children 50/50.
February 26th, 2009 at 6:17 pm
George McCasland, Papa Bear says:
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Want to or not, it is unlikely, as only 15% of custodial fathers get child support.
February 26th, 2009 at 6:58 pm
Whitney says:
there is always a primary parent, it might be both of them, but there is always one. Schools usually need it to register the children. Child support is solely based upon the days and incomes. There are other factors that will deviate from the amounts. If she is making a considerable amount more than he is and they are exercising 50/50, then yes she would be paying child support. Sometimes, the parent who only sees the child 4 days a month will still have to pay the other parent child support because their income is so much more. The child support is exactly that “child support” it is not for the ex-spouse. If he is unable to buy the children the luxuries that she is able to, then yea he should take it.
February 26th, 2009 at 7:43 pm