WHAT SHOULD I DO . GO BACK OR STAY. LOVE OR FUTURE. FREEDOM OR SLAVISM . .
By
on
December 23rd, 2008
Hi there, I’m doing this question because I’m feeling trap with myself.
I’m from Ecuador 29 y.o. married (3 year) I came to London nearly 2 year ago, where I’m living currently.
Almost 6 month ago I met a Polish girl 24 y.o , who is totally falling in love with me, wants to marry me, go to Ecuador after 3 years more or less, etc (I feel something special for her too), I was in her home visiting her parent, who adore me.
We live together in London , but the bad thing is that she doesn’t know that I am married, just she knew that I had a strong relationship there, Ecuador.
Now my wife, mum and everybody want me to go back, because they think that I’m not getting anything good here. You know what I mean. ej.
In ecuador I worked as a teacher, here I’m a assistant kitchen, in Ecuador I tripped to the beach ( 10 mile away) every month, here I’m going to some European country every 4 month, in Ecuador I had a car of the year(Fiat 2006) before to come here, in London I take the underground and busses every day, but still I feel happier, less stressful, I like to be here.
There are some economic fact that make me doubt, because in Ecuador we (my wife and me ) have a property, plus now her parents want to sale their property also because they want to divide the heritage, so my wife will get £ 50,000 that in Ecuador is quite much, but if they can’t sale in these two month, we have to take care of a restaurant with is part of the property, that is her part if there is no money plus a double flat house.
My fear is that if I go back, first I’m going to feel down, and I wouldn’t have job, the worst is that I’m not sure whether I would love again my wife(I know is rude to say this), but in the other hand here in London I know I feel great, nice but for how long. Because it is quite difficult to go up, rich the success , above when my English is not excellent yet.
So, I ask you please give me some advices, What should I do and where do you think I will get better life.
I know that many will hate me, what I have written here , but I just tried to be the most honest , so I could have reliable answers .
alwayswvgirl says:
Shame, shame on you for living with a woman and not telling her you are married.
And shame on you for being married and living with another woman - that is adultery.
Yes, you should go back to Ecuador, to your wife.
December 23rd, 2008 at 9:51 pm
Maxi says:
You are living a lie.
You need to start telling the truth, you know in your heart what you want to do, so do it, however be prepared to lose both your wife and your GF.
Oh you can decide what to do and not tell the two ladies in your life the truth, but you will never be happy while you are lying and cheating.
It sounds to me like you are thinking of going back to Ecuador, but is it for the money ad the way of life you had, it doesn’t seem to be for your wife.
You have lead your GF on and she trusts you to live with you and meet her parents, but you are a cheater and not the man she thinks you are
No one can decide for you it has to be you.
December 23rd, 2008 at 10:28 pm